The principle characteristic of Type Nine is their desire to avoid conflict and disharmony. When they were growing up they perceived that they were treated as unimportant, so they learned to overlook themselves and instead paid attention to others’ agendas, requests and demands – ‘to go along, to get along’. Their great strengths are their empathy, acceptance and supportiveness of others and their easy, relaxed style. This makes them great mediators – they can see and appreciate all sides of an argument. They have great difficulty, however, when it comes to anything that separates them from others, such as getting off the fence and taking a position; making decisions or saying No to others’ demands. Nines very rarely show anger but, if they really do not want to do something, they can be passively resistant. It helps Nines to practice loving themselves as much and as well as they love others, to set priorities and boundaries and to keep them.