This year we are exploring the 9 Enneagram Types via The Narrative Tradition, where we ask people who recognise themselves as one of the types to explain what their view of the world is, what brings out the best in them, how to improve relationships etc. This month we will be focusing on Type 4, known as The Idealist or The Romantic – sometimes Tragic Romantic.
The principle characteristic of Type 4 is their tendency to pay attention to what is missing or unavailable. They report feeling abandoned as children and secretly fearing that they were somehow “fatally” flawed. This is often accompanied by a sense of loss, sadness and melancholy. To overcome their dread of being abandoned, they learned to reject before they were rejected – creating a push-pull habit of noticing what is negative about what is here and now and what is positive about things which are distant and gone or which are yet to come. They want to avoid the dullness of the ordinary and the present and instead search for what is unique, intense and special. Feelings are perceived to be what is ‘real’ and 4’s tend to intensify and dramatise them. Their great strengths are their sensitivity, creativity, passion, romance, idealism and empathy, especially with suffering. It helps them to notice beauty in the ordinary and to be grateful for all the good things they do have, here and now.
There will be a panel with Type 4, to embody the Type and explain the motivations, worldview, blessings and growth-edge for Type 4.
If you recognise yourself as a Type 4, and would be willing to bring the Type alive for the group (which, by the way, is larger than MeetUp knows, since we have been going since 2002 and most of our members are on the email list) do please get in touch with Rosemary